Men want to please their woman

I was listening to the Satellite Sisters on the radio this evening. They were laughing and giggling as usual. Tonight it was about women who earn more money than their husbands. They were asking callers to phone in and talk about the trials and tribulations of that scenario.

I was intrigued by how the women were talking about how the men did not do “their fair share” of housework, even though the women were earning more money. Their statements were that the man would not even cook or do wash, even though the woman was working super long hours. The catch-phrase they used was the men would not help out on the “second shift”.

So I was wondering, do they include doing the outside work that the man almost always does? Did they carefully show their mate how to do what they wanted them to do, then praise him EVERY time they did it, or at least tried to do something for them?

My own experience is that men strive as hard as they can to please their women. If your man is not trying to please you, the odds are high that it is something you are doing or not doing that is getting in the way of him wanting to please you.

For instance, do you ALWAYS say thank you? Or are you critical of the results he produces as he learns how to please you(which will make him say why should I, she will never be pleased)?

Do you somehow expect him to understand your unspoken desires? Do you hint at this or that and then get frustrated when he does not pick up on your hints?

Here is a big bold statement about men, as I understand them.

MEN DO NOT UNDERSTAND HINTS! Men respond to words like “DUCK!” Or “LOOK OUT”. Men do not understand that we are hinting when we smile as we look at a piece of jewelry we would like to have. Men do not understand us when we make a disgusted face when he wears a torn ratty old tee-shirt. Men do not understand us when we are less than forthright. SAY IT LOUD, SAY IT CLEAR! Then say an unequivocal “THANK YOU for doing t hat honey!”

And then make love to him as you again thank him for vacuuming, or doing the clothes or the dishes, but be specific about what you are thanking him for, rewarding him for. Make him KNOW for SURE that you liked his effort. NEVER criticize his efforts, only reward him, with words, with kisses, with making love, with cooking his favorite meal.

If you do this, and your husband does not respond, then divorce him, because he is a ‘Taker.’ And ‘Takers’ do not make good husbands.