Monday, July 04, 2005

Erectile Dysfunction

My GOD! How many times do we have to watch the ads about "ED"? ED, as in Erectile Dysfunction. And that one about "if in the rare instance an erection lasts longer than four hours . . . ."! Oh my god, how stupid is that? I bet the ad guy (or gal) that thought that one up got a raise (pardon the pun)

Well, I spent a good part of the 4th of July weekend with a man (Doni) I highly respect. So I asked him about this ED thing. Here is what he told me.

Hmm, where to start? Lets start with some of the reasons, BESIDES A PHYSICAL ABNORMALITY, that ED occurs, in Doni’s opinion. (The reasons and substantiation will come later, here are the things he listed)

First: Wives actually, over a period of time, train their husbands NOT to respond sexually to their wives.

Second: Men get tired of always being told they are wrong.

Third: Many women stop taking care of their bodies after they “have their man”.

Fourth: Women ‘play games’ with sex.

Fifth: Most wives are HORRIBLE in bed.



OK, let’s talk about these one by one.

First: Wives actually, over a period of time, train their husbands to NOT respond sexually to them. A very high percentage of women are so out of tune with their bodies that they do not even feel the inner physical needs of sex. Nor do they know how to arouse themselves. So they use the age old excuse of “He just is out of touch with my feelings” or some other variant of that to blame the WOMAN’S PROBLEM on their man.

Then they discover their own sexuality, and suddenly they want their man to be sexually responsive to them. But they have spent years, maybe even decades, turning him off, and because he wants to please his wife, he does everything he can to comply. Pretty soon his willy stops responding to his wife. And then the wife her husband, tries to make it HIS fault AGAIN! The fucking bitches. Pardon me . . .

Second: Men get tired of always being told they are wrong. So they stop wanting to be around a woman that tries so hard to train him into being a subservient idiot.

There is a sign I see hanging in so many men’s offices these days. It says:

“If a man was alone in the woods, and he said something, would he still be wrong?”

How much more perfectly can it be said? That little question really says it all. It perfectly describes how frustrated men are with their marriages, with their wives, and with women in general. And it does not just happen in their marriage, it happens on 90% of the ads you see on TV, or hear on radio. Ads these days portray a man as an idiot controlled by, and saved from himself, by his wife.

That is absolutely sick!

Ladies, let me tell you something, men are intelligent, hard working, honest, and caring people. Any woman that treats their man with respect and admiration for the unique hard working person he is will NOT have a problem with ED in the bedroom, short of some physical abnormality. So get your act together.


Third: Many women stop taking care of their bodies after they “have their man”. Not only does their weight balloon, not only does their muscle tone atrophy, not only do they become overbearing assholes, but they stop washing their pussies! God, nothing smells worse than a dirty pussy! Can you blame a man that says “No way!” when she opens her thighs to him and her odor knocks him over?

Exercise ladies! Get into a weight control program, and NEVER get out of it. 24/7/365 is what it takes to be a sexy curvy woman. Not an ounce less effort will do.

AND, while you are exercising your body, DO NOT FORGET your pussy muscles! Your pussy muscles are what make it feel good to a man! Exercise them! Make them fit and toned and strong.

What????????????? Ashamed of talking about your pussy? Get over it! Men like to talk about your pussy. They would LOVE to hear YOU talk about your pussy! Every time you deny them the ability to hear you discuss sex, and your pussy, and their cock, and fucking, they begin to sense that you do not enjoy sex. By doing so, you push them away. You turn them off, little by little, refusal by refusal. After a few years, they have Erectile Dysfunction WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not with other women, WITH YOU!

And your pussy smell? If you can’t even take the time to deep clean your pussy before you have sex, then shame on you!

Women in the bible were viewed as being “unclean”. Why do you suppose that was? Well, I suspect that the nomadic life the early Israelite peoples led did not allow the women to wash their pussies very often. And a dirty pussy is a really ugly thing, smell wise. So the male dominated society declared them unclean. They WERE unclean!

Has your man declared YOU unclean in his mind, and therefore does whatever he can to not have to smell your odor?

Now, how about the shape of your body? Is it the same shape as the one he fell in love with? Have you changed? Has your body shaped changed? Fess up now. Who is it that is holding a gun to your head, and every time you try to say “no”, FORCES you to eat anyway?


Fourth: Women play games with sex. They use sex as a means of gaining control. They want to control the check book, they want to control his free time. And most of all, they want to get their own way. Everytime! EVERY time!

Well ladies, if your man is even the slightest bit passive aggressive, his cock will wilt in a heart beat when you pull that shit! You may have control of the check book, but his cock says “Go fuck your SELF!”


Fifth: Most women are HORRIBLE in bed. They have no clue how to have sex (OK call it “make love”) in a way that is satisfying to a man. Women won’t say “four letter words” (oh my, isn’t that delicate!). Women won’t even think about sucking their man’s cock, and if they do deign (for a short period) to do so, FORGET about allowing their man to cum in their mouth for god’s sake!

And the idea of letting your man watch you masturbate? On my god! Is that not on the list of the ten things you absolutely refuse to do? Be honest!

When was the last time you got yourself all turned on so that you were on hair trigger? Got YOUR SELF turned on to where all he had to do was touch you and you exploded? Never you say? Never done that? Tut, tut, tut!

Do you want some help learning how to turn your man on? READ PORN! WATCH PORN! Not rape movies, not gross no-plot crap! But good well written stories written or acted by someone that enjoys sex. Watch what men really like. Watch w hat men crave to have form their wives. Hey! There is an idea, take a porno home and watch it with your man. I bet he gets a hard on! Or read an erotic story to him as you touch yourself!

You could even ASK your man to teach you how to please him! It will probably take a while before he trusts you enough to even venture into that conversation with you, but believe me, he KNOWS what HE likes!

Do you?

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I got only to the middle of this article
but I must stop to tell you
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL WOMAN
AND A TRESURE TO MEN...KIND

kisses to you..
May I go on reading?

just a man
Samarel

Anonymous said...

Dear Deni,

I just read your ED blog. You hit the nail on the head. Esp. the training one.

My wife of 34 years(in October) loves all the foreplay slowly working up to her having several orgasms (fingers, cunnilingus, ect) then she wants intercourse...however, she wants me to cum very quickly...in just a few minutes. She will usually have one last orgasm this way and she is done...so then obviously I am too...only I am not.

I have lasted a very long time during intercourse with others but with the wife. All for her pleasure. Yes I get off, but sure would like it if occationally she would stick around and have another go at it...

Oh did I mention, she loves me to go down on her, but will not return the favor...tried it once a very long time ago...and never again...and it is not because I cam in her mouth unexpectedly...I never got that far along.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes this problem is medically created and has to have some "help". I can agree with what was written, but after 34 years this Sept for me, that help is not always there except in pill form. I have found that little pill works well, and the actual orgasm is somewhat more enhanced than before. No wonder people were killing themselves with this stuff, they were chasing the BIG O. Grin

Anonymous said...

If I didn't know better I'd swear you were looking in my bedroom window.

My wife wants to try new things but refuses to give oral sex, athough she loves to receive it. She won't allow porn and has a hard time letting me see her nude body much less the unmentionable act of masturbation.

all I can say is, you go girl!!

Anonymous said...

I cannot let this one by without a comment or two. To start with, I do not appreciate putting 100% of the blame on women. Men do the same things as women do and many play the same games that carry-over into the love bed. I guess you might say, I am a big defender of women. Now,
I know some women do just as you have stated, but I think you should clarify the fact that this does not apply to all wives. Have you looked at the men walking down the streets with their pot bellies hanging over their belts....dirty finger nails, unkempt hair, clothes that no longer fit....not very attractive to the woman and hard to get passionate with someone who cares so little about his body. Also, men don't always listen...the art of seduction by both has been lost in diapers and the caring of children...both become work-aholics and fall into bed in exhaustion, only to argue about some petty stuff that may really not be important. Again...hard for both to be the lovers to each other that they once were. There are lots of variables in every relationship. And to blame only one person is a disservice to both. It takes two to tango and it takes both to keep a marriage fresh and exciting. Both must give to the other...in simpler words...if a wife expects her pussy to be licked and sucked to orgasm, then she better get over her hangup of sucking her hubby's cock...and yes, even swallowing or at least tasting his cum (low calorie stuff). Now how does one get to this mutual loving...ahhhhhh, there in lies the problem. Communication without accusation.......Dar

Anonymous said...

I liked what you had to say Deni. And especially agree with Dottie.

Deni said...

Dar, I agree that my comments are not all encompassing, and there are of course many women who are good in bed with their beloved hubbies.

And of course there are men that are lousy in bed as well.

And you are so right-on about the desparate need to talk about your sex lives with your spouses.

Dottie's comments about the woman taking responsiblity for the sex some of the time, maybe even a lot of the time are also right on the mark. Dottie, you are a MARvelous creature baby.

Thanksevery one for taking the time to post. I was a little bit afraid of the reaction on this one, but it looks like you all have survived without being too offended . . .

Anonymous said...

Wow - Deni. Seems like you struck a nerve. In addition to all the points you made, I think that old adage "familiarity breeds contempt"
comes into play. The bottom line is that it takes WORK to keep a sexual relationship fresh and exciting, and there has to be the desire to WORK at it.

Thanks for your efforts here in your blog to address all kinds of issues.

Anonymous said...

Deni,
Just finished reading your blog on ED and I have to agree. My wife never initiates sex, has to be "forced" to touch her pussy, and will not allow me to kiss her after I go down on her, because "it's nasty." I intend to show her this blog, and see if it makes any difference.

Deni said...

Well, MrBill, did it make a difference? We all want to know baby.............